Posted by Kelly Lewis 2 Comments

I was working with a group of organizational leaders on Tuesday on how to create cultures of accountability. One of their challenges was to share the declaration (an explicit statement) that they were ready to make for themselves and for their organization. After hearing 12 powerful voices declare, "I will _______________", I heard, "Kelly, is there a declaration that you would like to make that we can give you coaching around?"

GULP...that was me after hearing their invitation. I accepted the challenge, stood up in my discomfort, and declared. "I will let go". And "Let go" I will do. Not sure what it exactly means or how exactly I will do it yet and I do know that is exactly what leadership is about!

A day later I came across this great poem, "Letting Go Takes Love" that made me think a lot about how often the leadership of today's world is so based in holding on and cemented in fear and how this notion of leadership and love could be one of the answers we are looking for.

Letting Go Takes Love
To let go does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it's the realization I can't control another.
To let go is not to enable,
but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
it's to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective,
it's to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more.
- Author Unknown



Nya E. said:

That's a really nice poem. It does show some controversy with the quote, "Let go the ones you love". This is in fact the complete opposite, but it shows a great message!

03/07/2011 at 09:01 pm

Kelly L. said:

Nya - your observation is a great one. Perhaps in order to "let go the ones you love" we must first love them without expectations, judgements, or desire for them to be something they aren't?

03/22/2011 at 01:02 am

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